How to stop overthinking

🤯 How to stop overthinking

Do you remember the parable of the white monkey? When I went to Nasreddin asked what the secret of immortality was, he replied that the secret was simple - not to think about the white monkey. It is not difficult to guess what the student who dared to ask the question later thought.

By thinking about not doing something, we focus on it and thus increasingly return to the problem. Let’s shift the focus of the effort a bit and learn how to stop thinking about a bad past, about an ex-boyfriend (maybe even a favorite) by changing your lifestyle.

Step one: forgiveness and acceptance

Resentment and anger will poison the heart wound and nullify all efforts to heal it: both yours and time. Understand that the accumulated resentment you will not punish a person, just as you can not hold back and can not stop thinking about him. Therefore, forgive him for your own sake. You don't even have to meet, just imagine (a guy or a situation from the past in general), apologize and forgive. Accept the fact that the past has happened. You can't change it, and thoughts and bad emotions are just an anchor in the unfortunate place where it all happened. He won’t let you move on. And we have so many interesting things ahead!

Step two: get rid of reminders

How can you stop thinking about the man whose picture is hanging on your desktop? If “your song” plays 100 times a day in your playlist. When you sleep, hiding a blanket given to them on his birthday. It's time to gather the spirit, collect all the reminders about it and hide them further. They will not disappear (unless, of course, you dare to burn them or throw them away). But come to the fore. And, believe me, to come to terms with their absence will be much easier than to devote precious time every day to painful memories.

Step three: change your life

It's time to change your life, move from the past to the present. To do this:

leave less free time. We spend more time working, studying, noisy meetings with friends (avoid parties in a small company, where it is too easy to pop up open conversations and memories). Ideally, the idea of "how to stop thinking about your beloved man" should be replaced by "where to take a couple more hours a day";

find a hobby. You do not know how to cross-stitch, roll wool or cook soap? Fortunately, the world will find admiration for everyone. For example, dancing or learning foreign languages. Do not be afraid to participate in competitions, communicate with the world. It is important for you to feel how big this world is and how much of it is interesting;

traveling. To mobilize your strength, you can afford a long trip (ideally - to take a vacation and live in another country), however, you can start with a detailed study of the surroundings. Wherever you live, there are always interesting places and facts that you had no idea about. Not bad for this to invite friends from other places to explore your region together;

change yourself. You should change your hairstyle And experimented with style.

Bought new eau de toilette? It’s time to give more love to yourself, find your happy and beautiful “I”;

take care of others. The tenderness accumulated during the days of suffering can be splashed out by giving care to others. For example, an animal. Or people need your warmth. Love is a feeling that the world needs and will always need. It is good that you have the energy of love, you just need to direct it in another direction. You need to feel the joy of having your feelings needed and other hearts resonating from them. If you find it difficult to communicate with other people, give love to your loved ones. Belief is a wonderful investment of your love, which will bring very high interest rates.